AI & Your Child

How to talk about AI chatbots, homework help and family rules, so your child learns with AI instead of leaning on it.

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When AI is part of your child’s world

Listen while you drive, cook, or shop. Voices come from your phone or computer, so if one sounds robotic, try another. Works in English, Español, and Français.

Your child may already be talking to AI. It shows up in homework apps, search results, phones, games and chat tools like ChatGPT. A national survey found that 7 in 10 teens had used it, but only about a third of their parents knew.

That gap isn't about bad parenting. AI arrived fast, and most schools haven't explained it to families. You don't need to be a tech expert to guide your child. You need to stay curious, ask questions, and set a few clear rules together.

AI is already here. Your job isn't to fear it, or to hand it over without limits. It's to help your child use it wisely, and to make sure they still come to you, not a chatbot, with the things that matter most.

What you might notice

  • Homework that suddenly sounds polished, but your child can't explain it
  • Talking about a chatbot like a friend, or chatting with it late at night
  • Asking AI about feelings, health or relationships instead of people
  • Sharing photos, their school's name or family details with an app
  • Trusting an AI answer without checking it
  • Getting upset or anxious when they can't use it

One sign on its own is usually normal. Look for patterns, and ask before you assume.

Before you talk

  • Try one AI tool yourself first, so you know what your child sees.
  • Ask your child's school what its rules are for using AI on homework.
  • Decide what you're comfortable with, but plan to make the rules together.
  • Pick a relaxed moment, like a drive or cooking dinner, not right after a bad grade.

Things you can say

  • Can you show me how you use AI? I want to learn it too.
  • What do you think AI is good at, and what does it get wrong?
  • If AI writes it for you, your brain doesn't get the workout. Let's use it to explain, not to answer.
  • Let's check that answer together. Where else could we look?
  • Never share your full name, school, address or photos with an AI app.
  • AI can be fun to talk to, but it isn't a friend and it doesn't really know you. If something is bothering you, I want to hear it.
  • Let's write our family AI agreement together, with rules for me too.

Try not to

  • Banning all AI, because they'll use it anyway, just without you
  • Assuming every good grade is cheating, because it breaks trust
  • Letting AI replace your talks, because they still need you
  • Reading their chats in secret, because they'll stop telling you things
  • Treating AI answers as facts, because AI makes mistakes

If they open up, or shut down

If they open up and show you what they use, thank them and stay curious. Ask them to teach you something. Then fill out your family AI agreement together, and look at it again every few months as they grow.

If they shut down or get defensive, don't push. Tell them you're not trying to take anything away, you just want to understand. Try again another day, maybe by asking AI a silly question together and laughing at the answer.

If your child is using a chatbot for comfort, or talks about it like a close friend, gently ask more and keep the door open. If you're worried about how they're feeling, talk with their doctor or school counselor.

Make your Family AI Agreement

A short, printable agreement you fill out together: which tools you use, when AI is okay for homework, what you never share, and what parents agree to as well. Review it every few months.

Download the Family AI Agreement (PDF)

By age

  • Ages 7–10: Use AI only with you, side by side. Explore it like a tool, and talk about how a computer can sound smart and still be wrong.
  • Ages 11–13: Agree on when AI is okay for homework, like explaining a topic or quizzing them, and when it isn't. Use parental controls where you can, and keep devices in shared spaces.
  • Ages 14–18: Move toward trust and self-management. Talk about privacy, fake photos and videos, academic honesty, and how AI is changing the jobs they care about.

Where to get more help

Want help planning this talk?

The 180 Coach can help you plan your family AI talk and draft your agreement.

Plan this talk with the 180 Coach

What’s coming: a class for parents and youths, together

We’re building an “AI & Your Child” course, one piece at a time. The first three parts are already here:

  1. The talk: this guide
  2. The rules: the Family AI Agreement
  3. The practice: the AI at home week and three projects to do together

Part 4 will be a class that you and your youth take together. We haven’t written it yet, on purpose. We want it built around what real families are dealing with, so tell us what you’d want it to cover. Every answer is read by a person, and we’ll email you when the class is ready.

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